Ten Reasons to Post Your Ten Ways!

Since the beginning of the pandemic it’s been more and more difficult for me to attract submissions on this site. Admittedly, it’s been a little discouraging. Rather than waste your time bemoaning the recent lack of contributions from my readership I thought I’d put together a post highlighting all of the reasons why I think your posts are so great and why I’d love to receive more, many more, of them.

I started my blog a little over a year ago with the vision that it could serve as a sort of repository of human sexuality. A Wikipedia of turn ons, techniques, and fantasies, if you will. 

I wanted to provide a place where people could go to find new ways to interact with their partners during sex. I also wanted it to serve as a sex positive space where people could share different kinks and hopefully begin to realize that their desires don’t have to be taboo. It’s absolutely ok to be kinky. It’s probably normal in fact. What kind of a boring, grey world would we live in if everyone had the same urges, desires, and turn ons?

This past year has been difficult for almost everyone and I’m sure most people have a lot more important things to worry about than writing what is, in fact, a non-paid, often very personal, piece about their own sexuality. But…just in case you were on the fence, I thought I’d put together a list of ten reasons why you should write a Ten Ways post…

1. Do it because it turns you on!! Every time I write a Ten Ways post it makes me incredibly horny. Each item on that little Listicle is one I had to envision and think about as I wrote it, and that, of course, is what fantasizing is all about.
2. Do it to help others be more sex positive! No matter what you submit I guarantee you someone else out there has that same turn on, that same kink, that same desire. Knowing that at least one other person out there feels the same way will help them feel less weird about their own sexuality and I can’t think of a better way to spread sex positivity.
3. Do it to inspire others to try new things! Human sexuality is so much more varied than what can be captured by the select group of experts that often write about it. Nothing you post will work for everyone in bed. But…everything you post will likely help someone!
4. Do it to help track the evolution of your sexuality! I’ve been adding an annual post to each category as a way to see how my desires change over time. It amazes me how much it can change over a year.
5. Use your post as a way to get around those awkward conversations with your partner. Maybe it’s far-fetched, but I’ve always thought it would be an interesting ice breaker. You could be lying in bed next to one another and be like “Look at this website! Hey, check out #7. Does that sound like fun to you?”
6. Make a post with your partner! Admittedly, I’ve never received one of these, but I think it might be fun, and it would be a great way to get better acquainted with all of the things you both enjoy.
7. Are you an erotica writer? Use your Ten Ways post to inspire your next piece. I can tell you from experience that my Ten Ways lists have served as great brain-storming sessions for exactly what might take place in a scene I’m writing. For example, the desires behind #3 on this post, definitely helped inspire what took place in this piece.
8. Write a Ten Ways post as a confessional piece! Not because you should feel guilty for anything consensual that you desire, but just as a way of admitting to yourself that you want it. Sometimes, just taking that one small step is enough to inspire action.
9. Write a post as a way to get yourself in the mood before a little self-love session. It’s a great way to visualize different scenarios that turn you on. I don’t think I’ve ever written one and NOT finished desperately horny and in need of some…self-care.
10. Write a post as a means of advertising your own site! I will happily include a link from your post to your blog. Just add a little bit about how you’d like to see it posted somewhere in your submission. Any one of the boxes will do, though #1 or #10 is probably a logical place to put that. If the form is hard to work with, or just seems intimidating in any way, just email me your list at admin@tenwaystotouch.com

Well, that’s ten! Here is a link to the submission page. Regardless of the reason behind your submission, know that I do really enjoy posting and reading all of these. My hope is that, with enough posts, the site will grow into an exciting resource for everyone!